First, you must write down your goals in clear
specific language. Then Start with not only visualizing but also seeing your
goals as clearly as you have written down. For example, if your goal is to go
to Italy and visit Venice, activate your imagination and see that you are in a
boat in Venice. Likewise, if you want to buy a specific expensive car say BMW,
you should imagine or see yourself riding the BMW. You have to figure out that
the sense of believing that you have already achieved the goal is to start
looking at it.
Be ready to face any obstacles
Next, you need to understand the obstacles. If
all things were very easy then nobody would need to create goals, write goals
or work hard to achieve them. Things are not easy and they will never be easy.
Once you see yourself achieving your specific goal, then you sit down and work
out what are the kind of obstacles you might face. There will definitely be
some obstacles, which you can visualize. And one more important thing to
remember is that as you move forward towards achieving your goal, some
unexpected obstacle will also come which you will have to conquer. It is only
your determination, your decision and your perseverance that you will some way
or the other help achieve the goal that you have already imagined.
Create a mental picture that the obstacles are
coming and you are conquering all the obstacles. Imagine that there is an
athlete who is running an obstacle race, while he is running fast; he is also
crossing the obstacles. Likewise, now that you know what kind of obstacles will
come, you imagine crossing those obstacles, picture yourself conquering those
obstacles and still carrying on with your mission.
Clear all your doubts
Many doubts can arise in your mind. It is
normal. However, clear all the doubts, clear your mind of all doubts which
often come, which are quite natural. You say to yourself, nothing doing, no
such doubts will stop me from achieving my goal. I have a clear picture of
achieving my goal, I am determined and I have created a mental picture of
conquering my obstacles. Therefore, there is no doubt that I can do it. The
goal itself is a challenge. And all the obstacles that you face while pursuing
the goal, will also be kind of smaller challenges. Embrace the challenge. It is
an opportunity which will definitely enhance your courage, which will give you
more will power to pursue and to be successful. Stay on track. Keep up on the
track following the same thing, which you have defined and seeing yourself
achieving it. There should be no diversion. Staying on track will definitely
make it easier for you to overcome the obstacles and reach your goal.
Eventually show the world you can do it. As I say, SUCCESS stands for,
S See your goal
U Understand the obstacles
C Create positive mental pictures
Clear your mind of
E Embrace the challenges
S Stay on track
Show the world you can
When the goal is a big project, define it and
write it down. Then have a very strong desire for it. That is the kind of
motivation, which is necessary to follow the steps that I have already
Believe in yourself; that you can do it and
then you will do it. If it is an arduous task and a big project, split it up.
Split it into smaller goals and then give a time line to those smaller goals.
You must review these every day. You have to review what you have done. You
have to check if you have come up to your expectations or not. This step is
extremely important. Schedule it, add a timeline to all smaller goals and then
Even if –at any given time–your choices of action are limited, your choices regarding your attitude are not. Always choose a positive attitude.
A positive attitude makes you happier and more resilient, it improves your relationships, and it even increases your chances of success in any endeavor. In addition, having a positive attitude makes you more creative and it can help you to make better decisions. To top it all off, there are studies that show that people with a positive attitude live longer than their sourpuss counterparts.
There are people who seem perpetually perky and whose good nature appears as innate as their eye color. But attitude is not a fixed state. Whether you are 15 years old or 50, your outlook toward life is always under construction. It’s never too late to change it. If your attitude is deflating you, here’s how to pump it up.
What if there was a way you could easily expand your mind and see greater possibilities in life? What if you could develop better skills naturally?
When people think of having a positive attitude, they probably think it’s little more than plastering a smile on their face and trying to think happy thoughts.
But it’s more than that.
A positive attitude is something that goes deeper and has an effect beyond surface cheer. Negative attitudes promote fear, and a narrowing of focus and the mind, while positive attitudes do the opposite. No one should live in a constant state of “fight or flight”, but negative attitudes create exactly that scenario.
Studies have also shown that having a true positive attitude makes your view of life seem broad, full of possibilities. That view leads to actually living your life in a way that makes it natural to be exposed to and acquire new skills.
1. Evaluate your current attitude.
This is the hardest step in the process. You need to detach from yourself and take a hard look at how you respond to situations.
Identify your problem feelings. What attitudes make you feel most negative about yourself?
Identify your problem behaviors. What actions create conflict between you and others?
Identify your problem thinking. What thoughts cloud or control your mind?
2. Write a statement of purpose.
If your biggest flaw is impatience with others, for example, vow to take a deep breath, listen to them more carefully and develop empathy—an ability to see situations through other people’s eyes. If your downfall is complaining, learn to smile, speak positive words, or if all else fails, silence yourself entirely.
3. Find new words.
If you were trying to motivate other people, you’d pump them up, wouldn’t you? You’d offer words of support, encouragement and inspiration.
Do you do the same for yourself? So many people I’ve met—people with tremendous potential—shortchange themselves with a self-defeating internal voice. I can’t. I doubt. I don’t think. I don’t have the time. I’m afraid. I don’t believe.
This self-doubt darkens our attitudes, limits our success and casts a shadow over our lives. The fix is easy: Change the language. I can. I expect the best. I know. I’ll make the time. I am confident. I believe.
4. Rewire your thought patterns.
Our feelings come from our thoughts. We can change them by changing our thought patterns.
It’s our thoughts, not our circumstances, that determine our happiness. Often, people are convinced they will be happy when they attain a certain goal. When they do, they are surprised and disappointed to discover that they don’t feel fulfilled. What they don’t realize is the act of filling one’s mind with good thoughts every day, regardless of what’s going on in their lives, will bring more overall satisfaction than the one-time high of a job well done.
5. Develop good habits.
An attitude is nothing more than a habit of thought. Habits aren’t instincts; they’re acquired actions. They don’t just happen; they are caused. Many people allow their habits to control them. That’s good if the habits enhance our quality of life. If not, well, life becomes cloudy indeed. You can change your habits. Here’s how:
List your bad habits.
Determine the root cause(s) behind them.
Determine a positive habit to replace a bad one.
Take action to develop that.
Act upon this new habit daily.
Reward yourself by noting one of the benefits of this new habit.
I see habit change as a process, so don’t dismay if you don’t see results overnight. The early stages will be the hardest. Those bad habits want to remain in control. In the middle stages, you’re on the proverbial fence, deciding whether to step fully onto the other side or tumble back into your old ways. In the late stage, you’ve successfully corrected a flaw and are enjoying the attitudinal shift that comes with it. But beware: Complacency is the enemy. Just ask anyone who has lost weight only to gain it back.
Back to that Gatorade commercial, where tennis great Serena Williams looks dead-on at the camera, steely-eyed. Her secret to victory was being “on the wrong side in the biggest upset of your sport,” a reference to her stunning fall in the 2015 U.S. Open to Roberta Vinci, an unseeded player from Italy.
Two years later, she became the only tennis player, man or woman, to win 23 singles Grand Slam titles in the Open era.
“I’ve had to learn to fight all my life—got to learn to keep smiling,” she says. “If you smile, things will work out.”
“It is even better to act quickly and err than to hesitate until the time of action is past”- Carl von Clausewitz”
The fear of facing a lot of consequences can lead to hesitation
and uneasiness. When you are expecting something, nervousness and anxiety can
occur due to over analyzing of the situations. This way, it can make you go
into depression, get angry, develop an eating disorder and whatnot. Over
thinking a situation is bad for the mind and health alike.
Here are a few pointers to keep hesitation and uneasiness at
It may sound clichéd, but relaxation has its own value. You can
keep your mind extremely busy so that the current uncertainty of events does
not bother you. Having a hobby, reading a book, taking brisk evening walks,
exercising, or watching TV can help you relax in a positive way. Being nervous
about something will not lead to anything positive, so it will be better if you
make use of the free time that you have until you get busy.
2. Ask yourself a few questions:
One of them is, ‘What is the worst that can happen?’ By
analyzing the consequences of the situation, it can help you relax and quit
being nervous altogether. You can even ask yourself, ‘why am I over thinking
this?’ Once you ask such a question, you will realize that it will lead to
nothing but sadness and depression. So, quit being hesitant and challenge you
own mind for the better.
3. Create a schedule and stick to it:
Hesitation and uneasiness occurs due to not making any actual contributions
when there was time. Hence, being nervous at the last moment will only make you
erratic and dysfunctional. By sticking to a schedule, you can avoid the last
minute jitters and overcome uneasiness.
4. Is it fear or discomfort?
When you ask yourself whether it is fear of the consequences or
just that you are uncomfortable about the situation that is happening will help
you analyze your behavior pattern. Do you get nervous very easily? Or is this
something you face rarely? Hence, this will make your mind clearer about the
ideas in your head. This way, you will be able to build your thoughts
rationally and avoid becoming anxious or stressed over the issue.
5. Remember, it can either be success or a learning (not
Humans are bound to fear from failures, but in real life
scenarios, a term called failure does not exist. It is either success or
learning, nothing besides that. So, if the term failure is out of your
dictionary, the feeling of fear will not come into your mind. Start a project
with a clear prospect of learning, then 99 out of 100 chances you will
experience a success as the end result. Remember a wise man said, “I have not
failed 100 times, I discovered 100 ways which cannot take me to the goal.” The
motive of this statement is clear that in case you are not able to achieve
success, at the least you will know that there are a few alterations needed in
the way you followed to fulfil a particular goal.
6. Create a back-up plan
Remember, you will never hesitate if you have a backup plan in
place. An example for this can be taken from our school period. When we are
used to attending the school parents’ meeting, then most of us are hesitant to
meet the subject teacher which we never studied, though we knew our parents
must have a backup plan for us so that we can excel in that subject. That is
why we took them to the subject teacher to discover our mistake and help us
with a solution. In a similar way, there should always be a Plan B ready,
whenever you sense failure can be an outcome, so that in case you fail, you can
go ahead with the Plan B straight away.
7. Have a Plan to implement
Goals are never achieved overnight, they are always achieved with a particular plan. An unplanned lead has more of a chance of failure, then a well-planned and organized way of doing something. The biggest advantage of planning is that it gives you an idea of the time, money and other aspects related to the goal, hence the uneasiness is eradicated completely.
Motivational speakers can deliver presentations and speeches on any topic, however. What counts is your passion for the subject you are addressing. Become a motivational speaker by identifying your message and your audience, brushing up on your public speaking skills and promoting your speaking abilities. Motivational speakers don’t have to complete a specific degree or training program to prepare for their careers, but they must have a unique perspective to share and a talent for communicating and engaging with an audience. Successful speakers recommend starting out by developing your unique idea or passion. Determine what expertise, experiences, and perspectives you can share, and what type of audience can benefit the most from it. While you may have expertise and experience to share on a specific topic, you may still need to do some independent research or talk with other experts to build a stronger base of knowledge in your field.
Develop Your Ideas
You won’t become a successful public speaker by rehashing old ideas in the same way as everyone else. You need to develop fresh, relevant content that people want to hear.
Invest a lot of time into thinking about your message and how you can deliver it in a way that will inspire, motivate, and captivate an audience.
Identify Your Ideal Audience
It can be tempting to think your message will resonate with everyone. But, the truth is, a message that’s too generic won’t leave a big impact on anyone. So rather than decide you’re going to speak about sales or that you’re going to motivate all business leaders, narrow down your niche. Identify the types of groups who you really want to reach so you can create content that will resonate with them. Understand the people you will target as audience members before you get too far into the development of your career. Different groups of people need to be communicated with in different ways.
Test Your Content
The internet gives you opportunities to test your content before you get on stage. Most people, however, worry that no one will hire them if they give away their best stuff for free. But if you inspire thousands–or perhaps even millions–of people online, you’ll attract attention and people will want to hear more from you. Use social media to share original quotes or to launch a blog to share your ideas. When things catch on, you’ll know you’re on the right path. Your audience will let you know what they want to learn more about if you’re willing to listen.
You don’t have to be a comedian to become a motivational speaker, but humor makes a massive difference. Humor works to endear you to an audience, but it’s also a big differentiating factor in the speaking market. Many of the top speakers in the industry use humor in their talks.
Allow the audience a chance to laugh
When you tell a joke or deliver a punch line, give the audience time to laugh. Sometimes speakers like to rush to the next point, but don’t do that. You need to give the audience a chance to respond to what you just said (in this case to laugh), but also if you rush on to the next though while the room is still laughing, nobody will hear what you’re saying.
Humans relate to stories. We connect to stories. Funny stories. Sad stories. Inspirational stories. We love stories. So tell them. Lots of them. Stories will keep your audience engaged and are also easier for you to memorize.
Gain Speaking Skills
Having good content is only part of the battle. The way you deliver your message is more important than the words you use. Even if you think you’re a rock star speaker already, there’s a good chance you have some bad habits (from swaying back and forth while you talk to using filler words like “um” more than you know). Join a public speaking group, take a college communications class, or hire a speaking coach to help you develop better communication habits. A few little tweaks to your delivery can make or break your career as a speaker. Also, record yourself giving a speech and watch it back. It can be painful to watch yourself but it’s important to learn more about your hand gestures, body language, and speaking habits so you can improve.
Offer to Speak for Free
Once you have your content ready to go and you’re comfortable speaking to an audience, offer to speak for free. Reach out to local organizations who may benefit from your content. There are many conferences around the country who don’t pay speakers (some of them offer free admission to speakers). Apply to speak for them to help you gain practice speaking to a live audience. Some people do a handful of free speaking engagements before they feel equipped to look for paid gigs while others speak at a few dozen events before they feel comfortable charging. But be prepared to speak for free until you’re in-demand.
Apply to Speak
Early on in your speaking career, you may need to apply for speaking gigs. Be on the lookout for conferences, conventions, and gigs. Find other speakers with a similar message and see where they’re speaking. You might reach out to event organizers and ask them to keep you in mind for future events. The more your speaking career grows, the less you’ll need to apply for speaking opportunities. Eventually, people will seek you out. And if you’re doing well, speaker bureaus will want to represent you and they’ll proactively market you as a speaker for events. They’ll take a percentage of your fee, but they can help you obtain higher paying gigs.
Once you feel like you have a talk ready to go, start marketing yourself. Build a website that shows you’re a speaker. Add “speaker” to your social media profiles. Tell everyone you know that you’re looking for speaking engagements. Word of mouth is often a key factor in getting speaking engagements. Keep releasing content too. Blog about your ideas, guest post on popular sites, make videos, or write a book. Release your ideas into the world so you can gain credibility as an expert. Event planners will want to see you in action as they make decisions about who to hire to speak, so at some point, you’ll want to create a demo reel that showcases you as a speaker. It may contain footage of you from several speeches, clips of you in the media, or audience reviews of your performance.
Do you believe that God exists? What’s your opinion on politics? What are your favorite pizza toppings? These questions may be seemingly unrelated, but it’s likely you have strong opinions about all three of these topics. Developing opinions and forming likes and dislikes about everything around us are part of our daily lives. These attitudes affect the way we live and the choices we make.
Attitudes can be defined as evaluations of ideas, events, objects, or people. Attitudes are generally positive or negative, but they can also be uncertain at times. For example, sometimes we have mixed feelings about a particular issue or person. Regardless, attitudes are an important topic of study for social psychologists because they help determine what we do – what we eat, how we vote, what we do with our free time, and so on.
Every attitude has three components that are represented in what is called the ABC model of attitudes: A for affective, B for behavioral, and C for cognitive. Although every attitude has these three components, any particular attitude can be based on one component more than another.
In other words, each component can also be the answer to the question: where does an attitude come from? There are affectively-based attitudes, behaviorally-based attitudes, and cognitively-based attitudes.
Structure of Attitudes
Attitudes structure can be described in terms of three components.
Affective component: this involves a person’s feelings / emotions about the attitude object. For example: “I am scared of spiders”.
Behavioral (or conative) component: the way the attitude we have influences how we act or behave. For example: “I will avoid spiders and scream if I see one”.
Cognitive component: this involves a person’s belief / knowledge about an attitude object. For example: “I believe spiders are dangerous”.
One of the underlying assumptions about the link between attitudes and behavior is that of consistency. This means that we often or usually expect the behavior of a person to be consistent with the attitudes that they hold. This is called the principle of consistency.
The principle of consistency reflects the idea that people are rational and attempt to behave rationally at all times and that a person’s behavior should be consistent with their attitude(s).
Affective component is the emotional or feeling segment of an attitude.
It is related to the statement which affects another person.
It deals with feelings or emotions that are brought to the surface about something, such as fear or hate. Using the above example, someone might have the attitude that they love all babies because they are cute or that they hate smoking because it is harmful to health. The affective component refers to the emotional reaction one has toward an attitude object. Think of someone – we’ll name her Alice – who has ophidiophobia (a phobia of snakes). A snake is an attitude object. Whenever Alice is exposed to a snake – whether she sees one or thinks about one – she feels extreme anxiety and fear.
Behavior component of an attitude consists of a person’s tendencies to behave’in a particular way toward an object. It refers to that part of attitude which reflects the intention of a person in short run or long run.
Using the above example, the behavioral attitude maybe- ‘I cannot wait to kiss the baby’, or ‘we better keep those smokers out of the library, etc.
The cognitive component of attitudes refers to the beliefs, thoughts, and attributes that we would associate with an object. It is the opinion or belief segment of an attitude. It refers that part of attitude which is related in general knowledge of a person.
Typically these come to light in generalities or stereotypes, such as ‘all babies are cute’, ‘smoking is harmful to health’ etc.
Attitude in Organisational Behaviour
Viewing attitudes as made up of three components – cognition, affect and behaviour– is helpful toward understanding their complexity and the potential relationship between attitude and behaviour. The object of an attitude is represented as a prototype in a person’s memory. Then an individual uses an attitude as a schema for evaluating an object. The person may assess the object as good or bad, positive or negative, favoured or not; then the person determines the strategy to take toward it. The accessibility of an attitude, or ease with which it is activated, affects its implementation. Personal experience with the object and the repeated expression of the attitude increases it accessibility. In this way, attitude-related information helps process complex information.
Interpersonal relationships that you form at work serve a critical role in both your work success and career progress. Positive interpersonal relationships will allow effective communication and understanding among employees.
Relating to your “boss” is one of the most important relationships you will establish as you begin your career, and with each new position you take in the future. Be sure what you do and how you perform supports the direction of your management team. Remember, you cannot become a good leader until you learn how to become a good assistant. Show your managers/co-workers that you are a “team player.”
Real interpersonal skills are about connection. This includes actions like smiling, a handshake, an outgoing personality in addition to a good mindset. Working in a team is important in today’s workplace and communication skills are essential. The Center for Public Resources did a national survey and discovered 90% of the time individuals are terminated for poor attitudes, inappropriate behavior and poor interpersonal skills rather than deficient job skills
Below are some important interpersonal skills that will help you at work and in your personal life:
Listening. Make sure you understand other people’s perspectives before trying to just emphasize your own. Paraphrase to clarify understanding. If you make an effort to hear what someone else is saying, they will be much more likely to hear your ideas. Be an empathic and engaged listener. Listening is a key interpersonal skill for building connection with others.
Look for the best in others. When you expect people to do the right thing and have worthwhile motives, your relationships improve. You will naturally treat others with respect and they will most likely respond in kind. One of the strongest ways to build a connection is to let someone know what you sincerely appreciate about them.
Adapt your style to the needs of others. When you know your behavioral style and can recognize the styles of others, you can approach other people in a way that builds rapport, strengthens relationships and reduces conflict.
Interpersonal skills are critical for keeping your team motivated and getting them to do their best work. With good use of interpersonal skills, you can increase your team’s happiness and engagement in what they’re doing, and improve your organization’s productivity.
So lets break down the different styles to see what the strengths and weaknesses are for each, here are the styles:
D – Dominant
I – Influencing
S – Steadiness
C – Conscientious
Dominant (D) Style Characteristics
The dominant style or (D Style) their goal is to get results, they tend to be fast paced. You can see a lot of progress around them. They get frustrated if there are a lot of obstacles in their way. They tend to go over, around and through to accomplish their goal.
Their de-motivator is loss of control or lack of control. For example, bureaucracy to get things done, micromanaging, anything that is an obstacle in their path that slows them down.
It is good to have “D’s” on a team because they will challenge the status quo. They are good at bringing progress and moving things along.
Working with the “D” Style
When working with a D Style they want you to be like them, no matter what your style is. The best analogy I can give is going to another country – speak their language. We will not be effective if we don’t speak their language (never lose your native tongue or style), but you adapt to their style and needs. It is one of the best ways to honor and respect them.>
To be like the D style – don’t waste time, ask their input, they are good problem solvers. Let them have some control and insight. Don’t micromanage or set up obstacles.
Influencing (I) Style Characteristics
The influencing style or (I Style) their goal is to have a positive interaction with people. They are very people oriented. The energy they create tends to make them persuasive. They are your best talker.
Their de-motivator is to be rejected or to not be liked, if people are negative. So if you know that there is an I style on your team they may be looking for that affirmation.
It is good to have “I’s” on a team because they bring positive enthusiasm and energy to a team. They use levity and humor to get their point across.
Working with the “I” Style
When working with the “I” style use humor, levity and enthusiasm. Mirror their enthusiasm and optimism. Let them know you like them and value the relationship, even if you disagree.
Steadiness (S) Style Characteristics
The steadiness style or (S Style) their goal is to have harmony. They are also people oriented like the I style, but they are more slower paced. If the I style is your best talker, the S style is your best listener. They truly want to be thoughtful and helpful
Their de-motivator is chaos, direct conflict and confusion.
The S style is the glue of the team, they are good at keeping the harmony amongst the group.
Working with the “S” Style
When working with the “S” style be consistent and reliable, they are people oriented. Sincere praise and compliments. They are motivated on how to be helpful and want to depend on you as well. They are demotivated by conflict.
Conscientious (C) Style Characteristics
The conscientious style or (C Style) their goal is accurate work. They focus on accuracy and quality, very analytical, focus on the details others would miss. They are more moderate paced. The standards they set for themselves are even higher than the organization has for them.
Their de-motivator is criticism, more specifically of their work. So broad sweeping, unfounded generalizations criticizing their work, making errors, or others not paying attention to the details, not giving them the information they need to do a quality job. Also, giving them enough time to analyze things.
A challenge they have is that they are critical thinkers and in general can be more critical of an idea. They pick up the finer details others miss. They are the detail people that keep the non-detailed people out of trouble….they can help avoid lawsuits for example.
Working with the “C” Style
When working with the “C” style have details prepared, reserve emotion, and focus on the facts. Don’t rush them if not necessary, but let them know the deadline.
Identifying the styles of other people doesn’t have to be hard. You can basically ask yourself these two questions:
Think of Accepting/Warm as basically People Oriented and Questioning/Skeptical as basically Task Oriented.
You can quickly identify the style of a team member by asking two simple questions. Is he/she more fast-paced and task focused or is he/she more deliberate/slower-paced and people oriented.
You’ll remember that:
D Style: Fast-paced and Questioning. Key goal is to get results. Interested in the bottom line.
I Style: Fast-paced, Accepting and Warm. Key goal is to have positive interactions with people.
S Style: More reflective but also Accepting and Warm. Key goal is to have things run smoothly in a harmonious way.
C Style: Reflective and also Questioning. Key goal is that their work is accurate.
Today there’s solid research on techniques that can increase your happiness and fulfilment in life.
1) Use Your Happiness Autopilot
Researchers at Duke have found that more than 40% of your daily actions are autopilot habits that don’t use up your decision making brain power. So let’s tack a little add-on to one of those ingrained habits.
Here are 3 ideas.
When you put toothpaste on your toothbrush, think of 1 thing that makes you feel grateful.
Or when you wake up in the morning, glance at a photo that makes you feel happy.
Or at night, do what Christine Carter of UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Center says, “After I put my head on the pillow, I will think of one good thing from my day.”
What will you choose to add to your autopilot?
2) Good Enough Instead of Perfect
Place the motto “good enough is great” in your mind. You’ll be saving time and effort and you won’t be berating yourself since you planned to adhere to your new motto. You can tell yourself, “I know I could do more with more time and more effort but it’s not necessary.” Think of that 60-page report you produced when a 10-pager would have been good enough. Easing up on yourself will add to your happiness.
3) Do What You Love
Don’t say, “When I retire, I’ll do what I love.” Instead, plan on spending some time doing things you love, even if it’s as a hobby. Decide when you can devote a little time on a regular basis. Or, is a career change needed?
4) How To Choose Your Friends
Researchers at Harvard say choosing your friends wisely is one of the most important factors related to happiness. Do you have some friends who sap your energy when you’re around them? Perhaps they’re frequently complaining and reminding you of negative events? Zap these people from your new friend list and replace them with optimistic people who make you feel energized when you spend time with them. And besides spending time with them, spend money with them also (see #5).
The author of Flow, Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, says when you find an activity that you enjoy, one that challenges you, and increases your skill, you’ll find yourself fully engaged in it. You’ll be in a flow state. This means you’ll be concentrating on the present and may even lose your sense of time. This feels good and contributes to your well-being and happiness.
7) Enjoy The Funny Side
When we crack a smile—a genuine eye crinkle that researchers call a “Duchenne smile”—our cardiovascular system calms. Laughing takes it one step further partly because it forces us to exhale. Simply exhaling lowers our heart rate and induces feelings of calm.
Smiling releases endorphins, which combat stress hormones. My advice is, “You should practice smiling right now, even if you feel foolish. You’re canceling some of the stress cortisol and you’re increasing your happiness—a double bonus.”
8) Reframe Obstacles
No one gets through life without encountering obstacles. Each time one pops up, try to reframe it as a challenge that you can handle. If you need support, think of a time when you surmounted your fear and successfully took action. Be a problem solver. My advice is, “Say ‘How can I fix this?’ Questioning opens the creative parts of your brain and you may come up with more than one solution.”
9) Random Acts Of Kindness
Professor Sonja Lyubomirsky has shown that practicing acts of kindness gives people a happiness boost. In addition, the recipient becomes happier and this even extends to people who merely observe the act. These acts don’t need to be anonymous, as her research shows. The observers often want to pay it forward.
So please add more acts of kindness to your week and help make the world a happier place.
Learning and development is transforming at a quicker clip in
recent years as a crop of new technologies like virtual and augmented reality,
automation, and artificial intelligence disrupt our expectations for engaging,
The expectations of today’s learner have
changed, and corporations must keep pace with those expectations to keep
employees happy and attract new talent. But that’s not the only thing driving
change in the corporate training landscape. Employers have finally recognized
that an organization with a strong learning culture, one that is aligned with
business strategies and goals, will outperform its competition.
The Rise of eLearning
From its humble beginnings as computer-based
training, the use of eLearning has grown to a multi-billion
dollar market. According
to Todd Maddox of Amalgam Insights, if you combine the corporate and academic
eLearning market, it will surpass the $180 billion mark this 2018.
The rising costs of instructor-led, classroom-based training is one factor in
the increased use of eLearning. Also, the need for continuous, life-long
learning has gradually driven its growth.
Development professionals have known for years that compliance training is
particularly well suited to an eLearning platform. Then there is the increased
need for awareness training (e.g., sexual harassment, inclusiveness, and
diversity, etc.), topics which are also addressed quite efficiently and
effectively with eLearning.
The use of eLearning
doesn’t end with compliance and awareness training, however. Increasingly
sophisticated platforms have made even soft skills training a practical reality
for this approach. Add to that the potential for significant cost savings, and
it’s not difficult to predict the continued expansion of eLearning for years to
and Retaining Employees through Learning and Development
increasingly being viewed as an employee incentive, right along with health and
retirement benefits. Workers understand that access to training will help them
refine existing skills and develop new ones, ultimately making them more
successful in their roles. Employee retention is rapidly replacing compliance
as a key driver of training.
In fact, attracting and retaining top talent
is a major challenge for most corporations today. In a recent Gallup poll, more than
half of all currently employed adults are either actively searching for a new
job or are at least passively entertaining other career
opportunities. Using online training software as part of
a digital learning strategy is
one way to help employees develop proficiencies that will not only help the
company but keep them engaged and productive in their current jobs.
Gap Continues to Grow Among Companies
With the rapid pace of
technological development, most employees have realized that they will need to
become lifelong learners to remain competitive in today’s workplace. With the
continuous emergence of new technologies and new business practices, the skills
that were required to succeed yesterday are not the same as those required to
succeed today or tomorrow.
Skills shortages are being created by digital transformation
across all industries. In fact, many employers are facilitating the re-skilling
and up-skilling of employees as a way to keep positions filled that might
otherwise have remained vacant while Human Resources worked to recruit the
necessary talent. According to a Payscale Research Report, approximately 33% of
companies had open positions for six months or more, due to a lack of skilled
or qualified candidates.
increasingly anticipate the benchmarks of the future, and plan proactively to
meet them. If employers want to fill skills gaps with appropriately skilled
workers, they need to provide employees with the development opportunities to
meet the demands of their current as well as future roles.
One effective way to
address the skills gap is the use of eLearning and micro-learning. Employees
can learn new skills, or refine and update current skills using these highly
interactive and agile technologies. Additionally, since they are online and
mobile, learners can accomplish their learning objectives more quickly and
There is no longer an adequate one-size-fits-all approach that
works (if there ever was!). Your employees are coming to you with specific and
varied training needs.
One of the biggest emergent trends in training and development
is a more individualized approach to training that allows employees more
choices in how they approach their own learning. A good LMS that
offers a menu of trainings for employees to choose from is a must for this
Artificially intelligent content delivery that adapts to your
employees’ corporate training needs is also emerging as a way to personalize
and individualize training.
This type of training (gamification being a good
example of adaptive content delivery) predicts learner behavior to keep
training relevant, interesting, and fresh.
Soft skills training
Maybe you’ve scoffed at the idea that focused training for soft
skills is imperative to the success of your business, but it’s time to
reexamine that belief.
The Stanford Research Institute International and the Carnegie
Mellon Foundation found that 75% of long-term job success depends
upon soft skills mastery and only 25% on technical skills.
Other research from LinkedIn identified soft skills as
the number one training priority among CEOs. Soft skills are going to
be the future of workplace training in 2019.
VR is truly the future of corporate training. Long a training
staple in certain industries (e.g., pilot training and other simulators), VR is
now expanding to more areas as a way to practice a skill before it actually
needs to be applied.
Would you want to be a neurosurgeon’s very first patient?
Probably not. VR allows employees to test-drive important skills with minimal
You may be hiring employees fresh out of college who have never
had a job before. Why? The competitive job market has sent many millennials
(and beyond) into college in order to compete. However, the resulting college
graduates have great technical skills but no understanding of how to apply
Online mentorship programs, either through
your own company or outside of it, can help coach these inexperienced workers
to increase their productivity, longevity, and chances of success.
While careful planning of employee training is important, one of
the trends to watch in 2019 is the rise of improvisation in instructional
design. This uses only materials readily available in a given space to design
instruction and can go far beyond just teaching skills or facts.
Improvisational design also teaches problem solving and teamwork, two of the
all-important soft skills mentioned above.
Microlearning continues to play a
huge part in the future of corporate training, providing employees with
easily-digested bites of information or instruction that can be immediately
applied to a task or project.
This trend doesn’t seem to be slowing down or going anywhere any time soon.
Exploring Immersive Technology
Much of the current excitement around augmented reality and virtual reality is centered around gaming, but these technologies will have a larger, lasting impact on the L&D. A 2018 Capterra survey on top tech trends found as many as 46% of U.S. small and medium-sized businesses are looking into leveraging VR in the next two years.
Virtual and augmented reality are becoming more accessible each year. These emerging technologies have the greatest potential to help manage change in an organization. AR/VR replaces traditional courses and assessments with a single solution where the mastery required is taught and practiced in a simulated environment.
From the quietly confident doctor
whose advice we rely on, to the charismatic confidence of an inspiring speaker,
self-confident people have qualities that everyone admires.
Self-confidence is extremely
important in almost every aspect of our lives, yet so many people struggle to
find it. Sadly, this can be a vicious circle: people who lack self-confidence
can find it difficult to become successful.
all, most people are reluctant to back a project that’s being pitched by
someone who was nervous, fumbling, and overly apologetic.
the other hand, you might be persuaded by someone who speaks clearly, who holds
his or her head high, who answers questions assuredly, and who readily admits
when he or she does not know something.
people inspire confidence in others: their audience, their peers, their bosses,
their customers, and their friends. And gaining the confidence of others is one
of the key ways in which a self-confident person finds success.
good news is that self-confidence really can be learned and built on. And,
whether you’re working on your own confidence or building the confidence of
people around you, it’s well-worth the effort!
What Is Self-Confidence?
main things contribute to self-confidence: self-efficacy and self-esteem.
We gain a sense of self-efficacy when we see ourselves
(and others similar to ourselves) mastering skills and achieving goals that
matter in those skill areas. This is the confidence that, if we learn and work
hard in a particular area, we’ll succeed; and it’s this type of confidence that
leads people to accept difficult challenges, and persist in the face of
Lack of Confidence
First of fall we need to understand the reason for lack of confidence. Lack of confidence is due to a fear of one kind or another (mostly unfounded). As an American wrote, “my life was full of misfortunes which never happened”.
Of course, one need not be
reckless. Yet, harboring fear never helps. We need to think rationally and pen
down what makes us afraid and why. This process helps remove some of the fear
and begins the path of building confidence.
A famous Management Guru
one said that there are four ‘C’s which form the foundation of an individual’s
growth and a Company’s progress. These four virtues are – Curiosity,
Confidence, Courage and Consistency. The most important of these happen to be Confidence. If absence of
confidence the other virtues will simply disappear.
It is said that “they conquer who believe they can”.
Self-belief is thus the second important factor in building up confidence.
Confidence emerging out of self-belief is necessary for any significant
achievement. New opportunities always carry some incidence of chance. For
taking any initiative you must be prepared to take calculated risk. In fact not
taking any risk is the biggest risk of life.
Further, Confidence enables you to trust yourself. And if you don’t trust yourself, nobody else will. No one will feel secure in placing any responsibility on you. That will be the dead end. There is no further growth.
Often we do not see opportunities because we are not interested. On the face of it, lack of desire acts as a strong handicap in our progress and growth. But, Confidence trains our mind to desire what the situation demands. It makes us alert enough to recognize and seize emerging opportunities. With desire created by confidence we look ahead, strive hard and succeed.
Confidence breeds courage
For taking risk of any kind one needs to have courage. If we have confidence; we will be able to rise up to the demands of the situation. So we must go ahead and take calculated risk. Courage enables us to move ahead! Yet, if there is no confidence it will be very difficult to harness courage.
Most people lack self-confidence. You can help them! Smile. Your smile will reassure them. You will be doing a great job helping them to gain confidence. This is particularly true when somebody is meeting a new group of people. We must also remember that the more we are helping others to gain confidence, the more we enhance our own self-confidence! We help ourselves too!!!
confidence depends on how you have been influenced by people around you till
now. Be it your parents, your teachers, your friends and others you have been
meeting. Some of the influences have created positive impact. ‘Yes, you can do
it and you must try’. This motivates you to act even if there is some risk.
‘No, you can’t do it’, ‘it is not for you’ ‘what will others say when you fail’-
these are some of the negative thoughts, instilled by people around you, or due
to your own brooding. These hold you back.
and Action are three most important ingredients of your self-confidence. Today,
everyone realizes the importance of self-confidence. Your career, your
relations with others, your progress in life or even your reputation- all
depend on your self- confidence. Your ability to overcome fears and your
determination to take action even in adverse circumstances give it a boost.
Anyone who wants to grow in life must develop ability to take some risk. Of
course, you must not be a dare-devil. No need to deliberately expose yourself
to great risk just to show off. Nor is there a need to take risk without
thinking about the results. But some calculated risk of taking action to move
forward in life is necessary.
Life is not a straight
line. Like the waves in the sea, it moves up and down. There is low tide and
there is high tide. There could be storms like we have in the ocean. You have
to accept the challenge and move forward. Your determined action further
enhances your faith and allays your fears. Consider that your body is a ship.
And your mind is the captain of your ship. Just as the captain of the ship has
to take decisions and take action all the time- 24×7, you must do that too.
This will generate the required self-confidence. And, you will start viewing
the life differently. It will no longer be a burden that tires you. It will be
an interesting journey that will keep you in good cheer.
Some other suggestions
to build your confidence and conquer your fears are:
Belief in yourself
yourself by dwelling on positive thoughts
Be the master of your
ship of life.
Never remain idle.
Ways to Improve Confidence
There are two sides to improving confidence. Although the
ultimate aim is to feel more confident in yourself and your abilities it is
also worth considering how you can appear more confident to other people. The
following list has lots of ideas on how to achieve this.
Planning and Preparation
People often feel less confident about new or potentially
difficult situations. Perhaps the most important factor in developing confidence
is planning and preparing for the unknown.
If you are applying for a new job, for example, it would be a
good idea to prepare for the interview. Plan what you would want to say and
think about some of the questions that you may be asked. Practice your
answers with friends or colleagues and gain their feedback.
There are many other examples of planning for an interview.
Perhaps you should visit the hairdresser before you go. How are you going to
travel to the interview and how long will the journey take? What should you
wear? Take control of unknown situations the best you can, break down tasks
into smaller sub-tasks and plan as many as you can.
In some situations it may be necessary to also have contingency
plans – backup plans if your main plan fails. If you had planned to travel to
your interview by car but on the morning the car wouldn’t start how would you
get there? Being able to react calmly to the unexpected is a sign of
Learning, Knowledge and Training
Knowing what to expect and how and why things are done will add
to your awareness and usually make you feel more prepared and ultimately more
However, learning and gaining knowledge can sometimes make us
feel less confident about our abilities to perform roles and tasks, and when
this happens we need to combine our knowledge with experience. By doing
something we have learned a lot about we put theory to practice which develops
confidence and adds to the learning and comprehension.
First-time parents to-be may well feel nervous and less than
confident about having a baby. They are likely to buy books or visit websites
which can offer advice and dispel some of the mysteries. They are also likely
to talk to other parents to gain knowledge and understanding.
In the workplace, training may be provided for staff to teach
them how to manage or work with new systems and procedures. During a period of organizational
change this is particularly important as many people will naturally resist
changes. However if those affected by the changes are given adequate
information and training then such resistances can usually be minimized as the
staff feel more prepared and therefore more confident with the new system.
Positive thought can be a very powerful way of improving
If you believe that you can achieve something then you are
likely to work hard to make sure you do if, however, you don’t believe that you
can accomplish a task then you are more likely to approach it half-heartedly
and therefore be more likely to fail. The trick is convincing yourself that you
can do something – with the right help, support, preparedness and knowledge.a BA degree in the US.
There is a lot of information about
positive thinking both online and in print. The basic rules of positive
thinking are to highlight your strengths and successes and learn from your
weaknesses and mistakes. This is a lot easier than it sounds, and we often
dwell on things that we are not happy with from our past – making them into
bigger issues than they need to be. These negative thoughts can be very
damaging to confidence and your ability to achieve goals.
Know your strengths and weaknesses. Write a list of things that you are good at and things
that you know need improvement. Discuss your list with friends and family as,
inevitably, they will be able to add to the list. Celebrate and develop your
strengths and find ways to improve or manage your weaknesses.
We all make mistakes. Don’t
think of your mistakes as negatives but rather as learning opportunities.
Accept compliments and compliment yourself. When you receive a compliment from somebody else, thank
them and ask for more details; what exactly did they like? Recognize your own
achievements and celebrate them by rewarding yourself and telling friends and
family about them.
Use criticism as a learning experience. Everybody sees the world differently, from their own
perspective, and what works for one person may not work for another. Criticism
is just the opinion of somebody else. Be assertive when receiving criticism,
don’t reply in a defensive way or let criticism lower your self-esteem. Listen
to the criticism and make sure that you understand what is being said so you
can use criticism as a way to learn and improve. See our page: Dealing
with Criticism for more information.
Try to stay generally cheerful and have a positive outlook on
life. Only complain or criticize when
necessary and, when you do, do so in a constructive way. Offer others
compliments and congratulate them on their successes. You may find our page Offering Constructive Criticism helpful.
Find yourself a confidence role-model.
Ideally this will be someone that you see regularly, a work
colleague, a family member or a friend – somebody with a lot of self-confidence
who you’d like to mirror. Observe them and notice how they behave when they are
being confident. How do they move, how do they speak, what do they say and
when? How do they behave when faced with a problem or mistake? How do they
interact with other people and how do others react to them?
If possible talk to them to learn more about how they think and
what makes them tick.
Speaking to and being around people who are confident will
usually help you to feel more confident. Learn from others who are successful
in fulfilling the tasks and goals that you wish to achieve – let their
confidence rub off on you.
As you become more confident then offer help and advice, become
a role-model for somebody less confident.ince
Lombardi – Successful American
Generally people are attracted to confident
people – confidence is one of the main characteristics of charisma. See our
page: What is Charisma? for a full explanation.
As we successfully complete tasks and goals, our confidence that
we can complete the same and similar tasks again increases.
A simple example of this is driving a car. Most people who have
been driving for some time do so almost automatically – they don’t have to
think about which peddle to push or how to handle a junction in the road, they
just do it. This contrasts to a learner driver who will probably feel nervous
and have to concentrate hard. The learner lacks experience and therefore
confidence in their ability to drive.
Gaining experience and taking the first step can, however, be
very difficult. Often the thought of starting something new is worse than
actually doing it. This is where preparation, learning and thinking positively
Break roles and tasks down into small achievable goals. Make
each one of your goals fit SMART criteria. That is to make goals Specific,
Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Timed. Our page Setting Personal Goals explains
this in more detail.
Whatever you do, aim to become as good as you can. The better
you are at doing something the more confident you become.
Being assertive means standing up for what you believe in and
sticking to your principles.
Being assertive also means that you can change your mind if you
believe it is the right thing to do, not because you are under pressure from
Assertiveness, confidence and self-esteem are all very closely
linked – usually people become naturally more assertive as they develop their
See our Assertiveness section and Assertiveness Techniques page
for more information.
There is usually a correlation between confidence and calmness.
If you feel confident about a task then you will likely feel
calm about doing it. When you feel less confident you are more likely to be
stressed or nervous.
Trying to remain calm, even when you’re under stress and
pressure, will tend to make you feel more confident.
To do this it is useful to learn how to relax. Learn at least
one relaxation technique that works for you and that you can use if you’re
feeling stressed. This may be as simple as taking some deliberate deep breaths
both in and out. For more ideas see our page, Relaxation Techniques.
Arrogance is detrimental to interpersonal relationships.
As your confidence grows and you become successful, avoid
feeling or acting superior to others. Remember – nobody is perfect and there is
always more that you can learn. Celebrate your strengths and successes, and recognize
your weaknesses and failures. Give others credit for their work – use compliments
and praise sincerely. Be courteous and polite, show an interest in what others
are doing, ask questions and get involved.
Attitude is everything, for better or worse.
The way you perceive and explain the world has a powerful effect on the results
you obtain. A negative attitude is almost a guarantee that life will be more
difficult and less fulfilling than it should be. Further, a pessimistic outlook
will adversely affect your health, relationships, and professional growth.
Learn how a negative mindset develops and the steps you can take to transform
How Does a Negative Attitude Develop?
It is necessary to identify the negativity in your attitude. What is negative attitude? Negative attitude is when you start focusing on the problems that you might face during your efforts to achieve your goals. It is the lack of hope that things will happen to help you out in your mission. It is the feeling that people will not help you because on earlier occasions you met with rejections. Negative attitude is the lack of your conviction that you can overcome the hurdles that you might face during your journey. In a sense, negative attitude is also a lack of belief in you.
Attitude is your response to a situation, circumstance,
person or an object. But the detailed definition of attitude would be; a
predisposition or tendency to respond positively or negatively to a situation,
circumstance, person, idea or an object. It influences a person’s choice of
action and response to challenges, incentives, rewards etc. These are called
stimuli. Stimuli are challenges, incentives and rewards.
Life is a continuous interplay of problems and solutions.
Every day comes with some kind of problems small, medium or large. It is our
job to find a solution and resolve the same with our required action. Not
finding a solution or alternative solutions is the biggest problem which needs
to be avoided in any case. “It is said that every challenge offers new
opportunities. No doubt it does. Then how is it that we are afraid of
challenges. Two reasons. Our negative attitude and lack of courage. Then what
should we do? How do we change? How should we develop a positive attitude?
Certainly there is no quick fix. But the reward of bringing about this change
i.e. from negative attitude to cultivating positive one, very well deserves,
the efforts that we have to put in. And what are these efforts? How do we go
more symptoms of negative attitude are enumerated below:
you think you don’t have the energy to get up and do the work. Sometimes you
don’t even think and realize that laziness is simply whiling away the time. It
is not even procrastination which will be described separately.
Low self-esteem: It is
an extremely harmful attribute in your personality. You start thinking that you
are good for nothing. You accept the situations in which you are because your self-esteem
is so low that you think you can do nothing better.
productivity: Work has a strange tendency of expanding as per the time
available. Even worse is when no time is allotted for the completion of a task.
This gives you a feeling of solving certain important problems whereas in fact
you are just being satisfied in remaining busy. This approach will never allow
you to increase your productivity. For doing more in a given time, you have to
stretch yourself. Therefore is it necessary that you allot specific time
duration for a task. In the beginning, the allocation may seem difficult, but
once you form a habit it will become much easier. Difficult or easy, it is
initiative: For any significant progress, initiative is necessary. What is
initiative? Initiative is your first step for going ahead with a task. When it
is something new, you have to creatively think and courageously take the first
step, even if there is some risk. No risk is the biggest risk in life. Any
significant initiative cannot be taken to move forward without accepting this
reality. So don’t be afraid to take initiative.
listening to understand: In the course of conversations, sometimes we
tend to focus so much on what we have to say, that we stop listening to the
other person. This is particularly so when the speaker has said something for
which we have a ready argument to negate what he has said. Unfortunately, such
a habit does not allow us to listen and assimilate what the speaker says after
that. Evidently it leads to miscommunication and problems. The solution is
first understand and then be understood.
feel envious of some people who are more successful in the material sense than
we think that they deserve. Such a feeling leads us to a myth that it is their
style which makes them successful and we try to imitate their conduct. This is
a extremely bad situation. We lose belief in ourselves, and how can we expect
that others will believe us.
trying to express: When we have certain ideas, but either we do not want to
express, or we are afraid to express, is also indicative of our negative
attitude. It is necessary to develop an ability to express without hesitation.
The fear of rejection which takes away your ability to act is one of the
learning lessons from mistakes: There is no one who
does not commit mistakes. Whenever we undertake something new, mistakes may
happen. This is normal. However, repeating the same mistake again and again, is
neither normal, nor should be acceptable. Thus we must learn lessons from our
past mistakes and use these lessons to direct our future efforts.
happens to be another aspect of personality which does not allow us to grow.
Ego comes in the way of our approaching people to help us. It makes us believe
that it is below our dignity to seek help. A success Guru had said that there
are eleven principles of achieving success. And what are these eleven
principles? These are, ask, ask, ask…. (Eleven times).
Jealousy is a negative emotion which keeps sapping our creative energies. We
gain nothing in the process. It makes us feel as victims of fate or poor
destiny. Jealousy may even take away our sound sleep. The worst part is that
sometimes it cannot be contained, it goes on swelling. Jealousy must be
thwarted out of the personality.
hard work: There is only one way to success, and that is the hard way. If
we habitually seek short cuts it will be very difficult for us to work hard.
What is working hard? When you are fully devoted to completing the job and you
forget even your surroundings, you continue to work even when you are tired
because you want to complete. That aspect of work may be termed as hard work.
Initially it may be very difficult, but then one can form a habit. For any
significant progress, hard work is necessary.
this change with following measures:
for rose flower not the thorns. No doubt the rose plant
is full of thorns. If you are afraid about the thorns you may never reach the
rose. So focus only on the rose. Be careful about the thorns and get the rose.
Rose is your reward. In fact that’s what you want- the rose. But the plant is
full of problems. These are challenges. Don’t be scared about challenges and with
careful efforts you will surely secure your results.
is the bane of life. It doesn’t allow you to go ahead and take action.
Procrastination pushes you into laziness and a maze of indecisive thinking. It
is the worst enemy of positive attitude. So defeat it. Always believe in ‘doing
has the strengths and weaknesses. Rely on your strengths.
Leverage these for productive work. Leverage these for overcoming your
weaknesses. Identify the weaknesses and do all what it takes to overcome these.
It will raise your self-esteem. It will develop your positive attitude.
Banish these four
negative emotions that ruin your efforts to develop a positive attitude. These
are: Indecision, Suspicious, Greed and Credulity. Actually each one of these
emotions becomes the reason for tragedy of Shakespearean Heroes as under.
was an embodiment or suspicious.
to the tragic end because of unending Greed.
Lear suffered because of credulity. Being credulity leads to people
hoodwinking you. This leads to disillusionment & suffering. In turn, it
makes you a negative thinker.
Assumptions about people and about situations. Often times, we do not reach out
to people for help because we are afraid of rejection. Never be afraid of
rejection. Even if it happens, take it in its stride. Often, you will be
surprised that those very people regarding whom you harbored negative
assumptions are happy to help you. I read a book which in the preface talked
about success- Eleven important principles of success and what are
Ask, Ask, Ask………..11 times.
Marry the spouse whom you
love. Otherwise start loving earnestly whom you marry. Our likes and dislikes
are not writings on the wall. They keep on changing like anything else. So you
can start loving your job and you must. It will make your attitude positive.
Last but not the least. Avoid
negative influences. Don’t have company of negative people, don’t read negative
literature and don’t watch negative movies. All pleasure seekers end in pain.
Those who lure you to undesirable stuff don’t deserve your attention or regard.
In the age
of Information Technology and extensive use of computers, one way consider the
human brain as a unique operating system capable of producing excellent
solutions to all your problems all that you have to do is to keep on updating
the system i.e. your brain with the lessons life teaches from day-to-day because
You come to this world with the balance sheet of the previous
birth. A programmed of possibilities you call it ‘Samskara’.
You study the features of the program or you don’t.
You learn to use it or you don’t.
You strive to enhance it to bring out the newer better
utilities or you don’t.
You are places in certain circumstances: you have a duty to
perform. You carry out your duty or you don’t.
You crave out a life for yourself or you don’t.
If you decide your profession you define your duties, or you
don’t. Own turn. Even then, either you define your duties, or you don’t.
Whichever way you define your own duty, you perform your duty
or you don’t.
If you perform your duty, utilize fully your operating systems
inbuilt software – your ‘Sanskara’, keep on enhancing it, bringing out new,
better versions and keep on utilizing your own operating systems; you are a
yogi. Or the great Bill.
The important message is to keep on updating your wisdom the
human ‘operating system’ for better decisions. And also to take good care of
your thoughts because they have an important bearing on your life.
Think big, and think great School your thoughts, it is never
Thoughts are like the Seeds in earth; these condition the
fruits before their birth. Good thoughts Make your decisions good Bring out the
best as they should.
Thoughts of jealousy, malice and similar kind enter your
mind, make you mad, and blind!
While your thoughts and a constant desire to develop a
positive attitude will take care of your mental health, it is equally necessary
if not more, to take good care of your body your physical health. A software
engineer ensures that his computer is not only updated with latest technology
in the field off his operation but also is free from any viruses and is
technically sound. Likewise to get the best out of human life, it is essential
to maintain excellent health both physical and mental. Human body is much more
than a machine. So it requires much greater care as it is…
A unique body with priceless mind comprises Creator’s
greatest gift to mankind in calculate good health Not for body alone
Money mends many things can surely contribute to good health
money for its own sake is a wasteful wealth.
Your good health alone can give you a store house of energy
that you always need. Besides, one must understand that to lead a meaningful
and healthy life, abundant energy is a pre-requisite.
Energy is a life force your activity’s chief resources mind
gives you direction Energy helps implementation action choose appropriate
combination of the two according to your profession whatever you do
A rigorous regime need not be imposed regulate thought
process. Devoid of stress get abundant energy, and be composed.
With a sound mind, a healthy body and a wonderful storehouse
of energy good decision come easy. And you know.
When to act or to desist it’s a quality essential top on the
list of people desiring success and they persist pursuing their goals with
decision fast there’s little doubt that their success will last
Whenever you have decided to launch an important project some
opposition from known or unknown quarters can always come. Often opposition
comes from close quarters. Colleagues, friends and even relatives may criticize
only for the sake of criticism. There may even be some latent motive. So be
prepared and have conviction in what you do.
When you are convinced what you say is right when no other
alternative is within your sight and for your right you are prepared to fight
your conviction you let speak even strong opponent will act weak
There is so much in life and so much to do. However for
anything new even within your existing project you must get used to taking
initiative. Besides having ample initiative gives such a great confidence and
makes every day more interesting. Pray to your God the Almighty, the way you
visualize him saying.
Grant me an unending initiative to further my tasks and be
creative indecision clarity may rule throughout
Risks may not, my mind, shatter completing tasks be my only
matter Flexibility when required let always come so that my day’s battles are
Rigidity of ideas must be never display democratic openness
must come to play your grace may always shine brighter making me your devotee,
a downright fighter
Whatever you my do, doing it well is of utmost importance for…
Aspiration to know even more, delving deep into matter core
availing fully faculties of the mind Virtue this is, of a splendid kind let
your imagination fly free awakening creativity to a finer degree pondering on
the problem in hand solutions come with a magic wand
If you try to pay less heed searching shortcuts to successes
you tend to loose you aim and enter another futile game virtue tells not of
easy means strengthens your will; goals are easier seen.
Hindu philosophy suggests that life is a continues battle
where we have to fight out against the implementing hurdles, difficulties
created by others etc. if life is a battle ground, be always prepared to fight
your battle well.
Most humans are fond of celebrating their victories without
fighting their battles.
Don’t announce your victory without fighting the battle don’t
celebrate the success don’t let reason rattle. Success does not always, come
with effortless ease, as though you are the only person for her, to please.
Hold yourself and give, your own mind, time to think nothing worthwhile is
achieved in a fleeting moment, the time, it takes to blink.
Most off the conscious times, you are at your work. So if you
can be happy while working you really feel that life worth living.
By following these simple hints and practices, you are well
on your way to create a positive attitude and you must.
Row the boat of ‘duty’ sail safely across a sea. Search
through your mind what your duty can be. Never is there a situation nor any
circumstance that could ever effect your intention of duty; you want to perform.
Hindrances, hurdles even hurricane may hurt or shake your
resolve. With devotion to your duty; Grater courage will evolve. Duty first,
always in mind greater joy; you will never find.
Unfortunately, sometimes we develop a tendency to complain
and even so bitterly about the fallacies that we come across in the system, in
the organization we work or among the people we interact with.
But one must move on with life without complaining.
Why should you? Always make a fuss living in your static
world rather catch life’s vibrant bus life moves on and so must you time will
not wait whatever you may do!