1. First, you must write down your goals in clear specific language. Then start with not only visualizing but also seeing your goals as clearly as you have written down. For example, if your goal is to go to France and visit Paris, activate your imagination and see that you are climbing Eiffel tower. Likewise, if you want to buy a specific expensive car say BMW, you should imagine or see yourself riding the BMW.
2. You have to figure out that the sense of believing that you have already achieved the goal is to start looking at it.
You don’t see millions who believe but only one who doesn’t
Don’t waste your energy in trying to change opinions
Price lee don’t look on it, see within
Next, you need to understand the obstacles. If all things were very easy then nobody would need to create goals, write goals or work hard to achieve them. Things are not easy and they will never be easy. Once you see yourself achieving your specific goal, then you sit down and work out what are the kind of obstacles you might face. There will definitely be some obstacles, which you can visualize. And one more important thing to remember is that as you move forward towards achieving your goal, some unexpected obstacle will also come which you will have to conquer. It is only your determination, your decision and your perseverance that you will some way or the other help achieve the goal that you have already imagined.
4. Conquering Obstacles
Create a mental picture that the obstacles are coming and you are conquering all the obstacles. Imagine that there is an athlete who is running an obstacle race, while he is running fast; he is also crossing the obstacles. Likewise, now that you know what kind of obstacles will come, you imagine crossing those obstacles, picture yourself conquering those obstacles and still carrying on with your mission.
5. Many doubts can arise in your mind. It is normal. However, clear all the doubts, clear your mind of all doubts which often come, which are quite natural. You say to yourself, nothing doing, no such doubts will stop me from achieving my goal. I have a clear picture of achieving my goal, I am determined and I have created a mental picture of conquering my obstacles. Therefore, there is no doubt that I can do it. The goal itself is a challenge. And all the obstacles that you face while pursuing the goal, will also be kind of smaller challenges. Embrace the challenge. It is an opportunity which will definitely enhance your courage, which will give you more will power to pursue and to be successful. Stay on track. Keep up on the track following the same thing, which you have defined and seeing yourself achieving it. There should be no diversion. Staying on track will definitely make it easier for you to overcome the obstacles and reach your goal. Eventually show the world you can do it. As I say, SUCCESS stands for,
S – See your goal U – Understand the obstacles C – Create positive mental pictures C – Clear your mind of self-doubts E – Embrace the challenges S – Stay on track S – Show the world you can do it. When the goal is a big project, define it and write it down. Then have a very strong desire for it. That is the kind of motivation, which is necessary to follow the steps that I have already mentioned.
6.Be Practical – Split the big tasks
If it is an arduous task and a big project,
split it up. Split it into smaller goals and then give a time line to those
smaller goals. You must review these every day. You have to review what you
have done. You have to check if you have come up to your expectations or not.
This step is extremely important. Schedule it, add a timeline to all smaller
goals and then do it.
talking about the secret to sensational success or even outlining a formula,
it’s important to define success and just what it means to you. Everyone has
their own individual definition of success. But there’s absolutely no way we
can talk about the secret to success without first creating some definition of
what success actually means to us.
in life has nothing to do with where you start. Sure, people who start
advantageously in one area or another might have a leg up, but it has almost
nothing to do with where they end up in life. Sensational success transcends
people talk about success. They say they want to be successful at something. But,
when prodded, they don’t provide specifics because they haven’t really created
those specifics in their minds. Sure, they might want to earn more money, drive
a nicer car, get a better job, or travel to some far-off destination, but
they haven’t set specific and measurable goals that are written down
HOW TO BREAK BAD HABITS AND BUILD ONES?
become hard to break to because they are deeply wired by constant
repetition into our brains. Bad habits interrupt your life and prevent you
from accomplishing your goals. They jeopardize your health — both mentally and
physically. And they waste your time and energy. But habits are also patterns
of behavior and it is the breaking of patterns that are the key to breaking the
habits themselves. Usually there is a clear trigger to starts the
pattern. Sometimes the triggers are emotional — the wanting a drink or
cigarette or nail-biting driven by stress. Other times the trigger is
more simply situational and environmental: You see the TV and couch
as soon as you hit the front door, and now your brain connects the dots, and
eating dinner in front of the TV on the couch is not far behind. More
often it is a combination of both — the mix of social
anxiety and the party environment leads to your heavier
a habit you care about doing regularly. Don’t worry about whether other people
think it’s important. For instance, don’t try to exercise every day because you
think you should. It won’t be long before your motivation for doing that habit
will wane and you’ll be relying on willpower alone to get you through (not a
great idea—we only have so much willpower, so you want to find a way to build
habits without relying on it too much).
you choose, on the other hand, to walk your dog every day or to play outside
with your kids, those habits might come with a lot more motivation for your
personally than going to the gym. And yet, they happen to include some
exercise. See how that works?
Find something you’re motivated to do. You’ll
need that motivation to keep you going, since habits can be an uphill battle
until they become ingrained.
The more often you do your habit, the stronger
it will become. Each repetition enforces it as a behavior and strengthens the
pathways in your brain related to it. Eventually, all that repetition makes the
behavior automatic, something you do without thinking about it, which is when
we call it a habit.
If you’re only doing something once or twice a
week, it’s going to take a long time for that behavior to develop into a habit.
You’re spending more of your week not doing it.
Try to find a habit you can track every day,
or every weekday at least. The more you do it, the faster you’ll develop it
into a real habit.
you aim to run 5km every day after not exercising for the past two years, you
probably won’t keep that up for long. To keep on track with your new habit you
need to choose something achievable so you’ll always feel that if you
make the effort you can do it.
last thing you want is ability getting in the way when you’re already battling
with your willpower.
you need to choose something tiny to start with, go for it. Better a tiny
habit that you do every day than a huge
one you hardly ever complete.
HOW TO IDENTIFY WHICH ARE WASTEFUL HABITS?
can be difficult to change, but it is possible to replace them with new
behaviors. When you replace bad habits with activities that focus on that
worthwhile 20 percent, you’ll find yourself much more successful in the same
amount of–or perhaps even less–time per week.
will always want to schedule meetings. It makes them feel more productive, but
if there is nothing to gain, it ends up being just a big fat waste of time.
Know what you’re getting into before stepping foot into a meeting before you
just waste time talking about what could be or what could have been.
rid of bad people is probably even more crucial than bringing in great
people. If you don’t get the wrong people out quickly, you’re only doing
half your job. It might sound like a rationalization, but it is quite
likely that you’re doing a favor to this employee if you make that decision
sooner, and let them go. It can be beneficial to everyone involved, with no
those customers who always want something but don’t pay. The ones that don’t
value what you have to offer, and constantly question your prices. If they
don’t value you now, they never will, and you’ll constantly be justifying the
work you do, no matter how cheap.
them loose. Give them the heave-ho. tell them goodbye and never look back. Only
work with clients who appreciate your value.
have been trained to look for shortcuts. Copy-pasting, plagiarizing,
repurposing, skimming, the list goes on and on. But in my experience, shortcuts
always lead to failed projects and unhappy clients.
someone will catch the mistakes inherent in shortcuts and make you fix it, or
start over from scratch. You spend more time fixing the mistake than you saved
by taking the shortcut; if it’s the who client catches these mistakes, not only
will it cost you time and money, but also their respect and confidence.
Do you come into the office with a plan? Do you have an agenda for that day or week? Do you know what items you need to tackle today and in what order
not, then congratulations: you’re “winging it”.
To “wing” something means to enter any situation without a plan of action. When you “wing” your day, you get pulled into every meeting, and you usually respond to every call.
starting your day with a plan of your priorities, you don’t waste time, and you
know what items take priority; not only do the most important tasks get
accomplished first, but you are able to finish more tasks overall because you
waste less time leaving items half-finished and coming back to them later.
Secret No. 3
HOW TO VALUE YOUR TIME & LEVERAGE IT TO MAKE ITS BEST USE?
tactics like maintaining “to-do” lists (or “done” lists), setting goals, and
decreasing the amount and time of meetings can all help. But really, these are
all tactics that fall into a strategical category of leveraging our time.
is an awesome force–it allows us to multiply our abilities by applying a little
pressure to something.
a sharp contrast from our modern day! Now, words are cheap: they are everywhere,
constantly bombarding us with useless information and trivial tweets. Heartfelt
letters to a lover are rare. More often, we see texts sent with emoticons and
sad truth is, few of us place value in the words we speak. We open our mouths
to hear the music of our own voices, rarely considering the worth of what we
man’s reputation can be ruined by loose lips. Just look at politics. The
more we say, the more likely we are to say something stupid. The sheer volume of
words issuing from our mouths statistically invites idiocy. We all have had
moments when we’ve made everyone laugh a few times, but it all stops when we
say something off-putting. The humor quickly evaporates, leaving us with
when dealing with our bosses or members of the opposite sex, we can be tempted
to avoid awkward silence by filling it with even more awkward chatter. This can
inevitably lead to saying something regrettable and possibly offensive.
less we talk, the more we observe! Our idle words that flow from our mouths
with little consequence, are often the outpouring of our minds chattering away.
When we stop talking, restraining our words, we will find that that the voice
inside also grows silent. This allows us to get out of the world in our heads,
and look at the world around us, seeing things that we might not have noticed
the range, inattention to the world around you was dangerous. The very land
itself was ready to kill you at any moment. If you were idly talking about
nothing with your guard down, you wouldn’t have noticed a hostile enemy
creeping up behind you with knife in hand.
we don’t necessarily need to be worried about being scalped at the office,
being absorbed in our world is still dangerous. It can range from not seeing
the car pulling out in front of you or failing to observe a girl is interested
in you. When we pull ourselves from the constant flow of words in our minds and
out of our mouths, it frees us to really see what is going on in our lives.
speaking to others, it is good to keep what you are saying in the right tone.
Telling jokes while attending a funeral isn’t often a great idea.
there impact to what you are about to say? When you speak, you should have a
better reason for what you say than, “I wanted to.” Ideally, everything you say
should have a purpose or reason. Maybe your friend is feeling down and you know
that he loves a good joke. Your girlfriend has had a bad day, so you tell her
something encouraging that you love about her. The goal is to reduce the amount
of unnecessary things you say, because it’s usually the unnecessary words we
doubt, at times a cowboy would give someone a piece of his mind, regardless of
whether or not it hurt the other’s feelings. This was done with courage because
it could easily provoke a gunfight and had more behind it than mere spite.
Today, we don’t often come to blows or gunfire over insults, but that doesn’t
mean we should weigh the consequences less. Speaking the truth hurts at times.
Saying off-handedly to your wife or girlfriend that the dinner she made was OK
may not seem harmful; but the comment may hurt them more than you realize.
At the end of the day, we don’t have much more than our
reputations. A Cowboy certainly didn’t. We should take care that our words
don’t reflect badly on ourselves. The easiest way for a powerful man to seem
foolish is to run his mouth off, revealing to all how little control he
actually has over himself. What we choose to say often reveals our
HOW TIME LOG SHOULD BE USED TO MAINTAIN YOUR FOCUS?
problem with working harder is that it simply doesn’t work. The human brain
isn’t designed to operate at full power all day long. Rather than helping you
get closer to your goals, trying to focus for extended periods of time can fry
your mental circuits, making it impossible to think clearly. As a result, your
decision-making and creativity suffer, and your work slows to a crawl. Focus
also involves an understanding of what is worthy of your distraction.
people wish they had more time to do all they want to do, but they’re
‘just so busy’.
a time log is a simple and surprisingly effective way to boost your
productivity, get what needs to be done actually done, and realize just how
‘busy’ you’ve really been.
many respects, it’s the first step you need to take because it makes you aware
of just how you’re spending your time — the key to managing yourself more
by making the effort to record and analyze how you spend your day will itself
raise awareness of your time and how you’re using it.
time you invest to do it will almost certainly be paid back to you many times
over as you become more conscious of how much your time matters?
a personal time management log helps you identify what you’re spending too long
on… or not doing enough!
surprising just how disruptive and destructive a break in focus can be for your
it’s only when you look back that you can see just how much time was wasted on
low value activities that you could easily outsource to others, or not get
involved in at all.
Spot patterns that highlight what times of day you’re most likely to be productive, and also when you’re less so. Knowing your patterns of productivity is useful for planning.
HOW TO WATCH YOUR PERSPECTIVE OF LIFE AND KEEP UPDATING
has many definitions, such as the ability to understand what is important and
what isn’t, and the capacity to view things in their true relationship or
relative importance. If you are only thinking about problems and sorrows,
that’s exactly what are you going to attract in your life. If you change your
perspective and start thinking about solutions and opportunities, you are
sending vibrations to attract an abundance of them.
you having trouble looking for the silver lining? Feeling burned out can
negatively affect your life as well as your career.
writing a page or two on what you would like to do with the rest of your life.
Don’t worry about grammar, practicalities or priorities. Just create that dream
your thoughts, feelings and hopes, or tell them to a trusted friend. With
someone to witness them, you’ll feel responsible for making some changes.
HOW TO ALIGN YOUR ACTIONS WITH YOUR GOALS?
nice to have goals. The act of setting goals along makes you much more likely
to achieve them.
having goals isn’t enough. It’s far too easy to jot down some goals that make
you feel good about yourself, only to then get distracted and forget about them
key to achieving your goals is really simple. It comes down to aligning your
actions with your goals — every single day.
you want to lose weight, you need to eat better. If you want to build muscle,
you need to lift weights. If you want to write a book, you need to start
if you want to grow your business, you need to start doing some marketing.
are helpful to direct your steps. But more important than goals is the strong
reason “why” you work for those goals.
you know the deep reason why you seek for them, you’ll be more motivated
to push through.
intentionally seek for opportunities that align with your “why”. You’ll filter
your actions that do not support it. You’ll start your day with clarity. It’s
never impossible for you to enjoy life and make a living at the same time. You
can work hard or do more and still feel fulfilled.
lose your journey to a fulfilling life when you settle your eyes on the metrics
you examine yourself, you slowly find out why you do certain actions.
employees don’t know their company’s mission, vision or core values, they
are left with a lack of direction. Instead, they need to be aware of how their
projects fit into the overall organizational framework and how their specific
contributions impact company strategy.
key here is alignment. Employees at all levels need to be aligned on their
companies’ larger goals, and those goals need to be broken down to
a smaller scale to ensure that people remain engaged in day-to-day
who consistently provide feedback can help keep employees focused on their
performance. Feedback acts as a reminder. Without it, employees get too caught
up in their daily tasks and lose sight of the bigger picture.
see the value in feedback, as well. Work board found that 72 percent
of employees surveyed thought their performance would improve with more
feedback. Job feedback should focus on growth and forward thinking by and
how employees can learn from their mistakes.
employers should seek feedback from their staff. If employees feel that they
aren’t informed properly or are missing information, they should be able to
for example, a tenured employee finds new directives to be off track, he or she
should be able to express concerns and ask how a particular project
contributes to the overall organizational goals.
should know their role in each of their projects. To help them do this, you can
use visuals to explain the company’s overall strategy and how each role
advances toward its goals. Some project-management platforms provide real-time
goal-tracking and present it in charts and graphs to demonstrate individual and
also important to assign the right tasks to the right people. Use feedback and
performance reviews to understand each employee’s level of competency and what
his or her strengths are, to maintain and even improve productivity. If particular employees
excel at closing sales deals, put them on the front line on client
further, should challenge an employee to grow. Consistent feedback lets
employers know their employees’ plan to evolve, which in turn informs the assignment
of projects. If, for example, a tenured employee wants to expand his or
her skill set and learn more about research and development, the employer can
integrate that individual’s role with that department.
is essential to keep a company growing and reaching for its vision. When
employees aren’t recognized, they lose track of their purpose. But in contrast,
when wins are celebrated, employees want to win more.
simple expression of gratitude, such as a thank-you note or gift, shows employees
that management is paying attention and notices that they are consistently
working hard and succeeding at their individual goals.
recognizing top talent, explain how employees’ efforts are pushing the company
toward large-scale goals. Show how their performance is meeting and exceeding
expectations to encourage more hard work and dedication.
HOW TO KEEP IN MIND THAT YOUR FIRST DUTY IS TO YOURSELF FOR BRINGING SENSATION SUCCESS IN YOUR LIFE?
the easiest thing in the world to give up from a failure. The only way to push
on is if you have the true burning desire to succeed, to not be moved or
dissuaded from your goals.
is success to you? How to be successful in life?
some, when they think of success, they imagine wealth; others want power; some
just want to make a positive impact on the world.
of these are perfectly valid, indeed success is a concept that means different
things to different people. Though no matter what success is to you, it almost
certainly isn’t something will come easily.
are countless guides and books to being successful, however, as success is
personal and unique to each individual. The advice contained in these books can
often not be relevant. Therefore following the advice of a single individual
can often be unhelpful.
this in mind, considering the advice of a great many people, people whose ideas
of success were different both to each other, and quite possibly, to you can be
a good alternative.
that life is the ultimate video game: It keeps leveling up, and
you have to level up with it. Do something well enough that you make it look
easy. Even if it takes 10,000 hours to get there, it’ll be worth it in the end.
Figure out what your values are and stick with them. Kindness is a
scarce and valuable resource. Cherish it.
Fear is the number one thing holding you back from what you want
to do. Be brave enough to follow your heart. Not enough people will be.
comes when you’re not in the middle of the situation. The best view of the NYC
skyline is in New Jersey, not on Fifth Avenue.
Trust your gut. When your spidery sense is tingling, pay close attention.
Somehow it knows better than you do when something is right or wrong.
will never know how much space you take up in someone else’s world.
people binds them to you more deeply than kindness. Just look at the Joker and
that said, try to leave people better off than you found them. Leaving
them worse off will have repercussions for them far beyond just you, touching
everyone they interact with in the future (i.e., if you’re the first
ex-boyfriend who broke her heart, she will be guarded around every man she
meets after you. If you’re that first terrible boss at work, he will be jaded
for the rest of his career. Just something to think about.)
not to use people as a means to an end. They can tell. So can you.
of the time, people are not trying to hurt you on purpose. Usually their
actions are driven by self-interest, not malice.
people a second chance, if they deserve one.
is a bitch; it bleeds into everything and can come out in unexpected ways. Be
careful with your insecurities and especially careful with those of others.
easiest way to be happy is to not be outcome-dependent.
best relationships are like fine wine: They get better and better over time.
you can, pay it forward.
have to have a reason for being. If your whyis strong enough, then your how will fall into place. You
will figure out a way.
If you’re wondering why it’s so important to do what you love,
it’s because work takes up so much of your life. The vast majority of your most
productive waking hours will be spent at work, so in order to love your
life, you have to love what you do for a living.
How to become efficient and
effective in work? And in life, as well? These are two foremost questions.
In today’s competitive world, the word “Personal Effectiveness” has got an
immense importance, and why not? Today’s work environment is very demanding and
to be successful means grooming yourself and honing with the skill of being
effective. Personal effectiveness is not restricted
to the corporate environment. Productivity is important and can be applied well
to all other walks of life. May be also the be kitchen work , gym work out or
anything else carried out by you.
What is this technique and how to imbibe it?
Well, let us discuss in detail what is personal effectiveness
Doing the right things and doing these right. Peter Drucker said: “Efficiency is doing things right, Effectiveness is doing the right things”. Self-explanatory as it is personal effectiveness of a person can be calculated by two parameters. It not only measures the result against time but also gauges the quality of work. Quality and quantity, both are important. Thus, effective people are those who can achieve more quality work in less time. While doing so they are not stressed, or confused as if they are working under pressure. Neither do they lose their physical health nor do they lose their mental or emotional one. These people are consistent and deliver results constantly.
Andre Maurois says “The effectiveness of work increases
according to geometric Progression, if there are no interruptions”.
So let us take a look at how do you achieve personal
effectiveness. Personal effectiveness is the art which helps in self-development.
You need to observe and practice the seven important rules to achieve the same.
Ask yourself these questions:
How to increase Personal Productivity?
How to increase Personal Productivity at work?
How to improve Personal Productivity?
How to increase my Personal Productivity?
And at night write down your assessment on all the above questions how you handled these during the day in your journal.
Before you start your work keep in mind the
How to start a good routine?
How to start a good day?
How to start your day with positive vibes?
Thoroughly understand what you
want to do, and do it in a relaxed manner.
When you start doing a certain work do start in haste, it’s
not so good. Well begun is half done. Isn’t it? And that is why it is required
to thoroughly understand the task which you are supposed to begin. Read through
or just mind walk through the process. You may encounter some grey areas which
can be dealt with by exploring more from the umpteen books and also the
internet. Information can be extracted from various sources if not available
readily! Isn’t this process more sensible than starting the project in a hurry
and then stumbling across something which you are clueless about? This is one
of the principles to work your way straight to personal effectiveness. It
reduces the time in which the work is done and also improves the quality of the
Focus on your work. In order or develop your focus, keep following in mind.
What should I do for increasing focus?
How to focus better at work?
How do I increase concentration during study?
It is easier said than done! But you need to starve all the distractions that come in your way and you need to feed your focus. The art lies in not digressing from the objective in any way. Focus means to continuously put your attention on something and forget the rest of the world. When handling something of critical importance, lock yourself in where no one can disturb you. Once you start on focusing on what you want to achieve, every other stuff should appear meaningless. Focus empowers and teaches you a lot. If you love your job, this love will add to your focus. One has to decide to be focused until it becomes a habit. And eventually the end result is qualitative work in less time.
Self-belief: It gives you immense power to work with a
positive mind. Always keep in view the following:
Difference between confidence and belief?
How to motivate yourself to be confident?
Building self-belief is a continuous process.
d) What is the difference between confidence, over confidence and self-belief?
Undeterred faith in yourself is a sure way to personal effectiveness. Unless you believe in yourself how can you make the world believe you. Doubtful mindset spoils the results. You should have a constant strong belief in yourself and your capabilities. Best possible results often are delivered when you keep reinforcing that YOU CAN DO IT!
Expect the unexpected Life is never a straight line. Everyone has their own ups and downs. All of us have roughs and crests. But the art to lead personally effective life is to be least disrupted due to unexpected events. You can have a plan. But rarely do plans get executed in the same way as planned. You should be proactive enough to foresee any interrupting event and should have an alternative plan which would work without any hassles. Personally effective people are prepared to handle any situation with great ease.
Application of mind is always
necessary. Never keep on doing something as a matter of routine without
thinking. Routine also will improve with application of mind. Check the
Habit of mind curriculum.
Habit of mind chart.
Why are habits of mind important?
How is mindfulness while thinking?
How do I make mindfulness habit?
Mind is the biggest weapon. Human beings are armed with it
and must use it for improving on the battle of being competitive. Many great
feats are best performed when mind is applied to those. Never take for granted
even small objectives. Once you apply mind to a particular problem, you will
definitely find a solution. The more you apply your mind to something that you
love it becomes more effective.
Put your mind and soul into
the work. Keep the following in mind and observe the difference.
When you put your heart and soul into your work?
What puts your mind at ease?
‘Put your heart and soul into everything you do’: Bible verse.
When you dedicate totally and put your mind and soul into an objective, you start enjoying the work. When you do the same you leverage on opportunities .The lessons learnt through various experiences in life could also be put to use to be personally effective.
Stretch yourself to the extent, you can. Even physically
stretch and find it is helpful. Keep in mind the following:
Stretch before work.
The importance of stretching when working.
C) Benefits of stretching at work.
Nothing worthwhile can be achieved by shortcuts. You should be eager to move an extra mile then only better things can happen. It is often said that “if you wish to achieve something you haven’t you need to do something you have not!” That is where you can get different results by putting yourself to a task little more than yesterday. Your objective should not be competing with others, but improving your own self. Continuously improving the work that you do and following the other
1. Develop your passion by doing all what it takes. Strong Passion alone will make a strong Foundation.
Motivational speakers can deliver presentations and speeches on any topic. However, what counts is your passion for the subject you are addressing. Become a motivational speaker by identifying your message and your audience, brushing up on your public speaking skills and promoting your speaking abilities. Motivational speakers don’t have to complete a specific degree or training program to prepare for their careers, but they must have a unique perspective to share and a talent for communicating and engaging with an audience. Successful speakers recommend starting out by developing your unique idea or passion. Determine what expertise, experiences, and perspectives you can share, and what type of audience can benefit the most from it. While you may have expertise and experience to share on a specific topic, you may still need to do some independent research or talk with other experts to build a stronger base of knowledge in your field.
2. Content is the King. Never undermine its importance! The internet gives you opportunities to test your content before you get on stage. Most people, however, worry that no one will hire them if they give away their best stuff for free. But if you inspire thousands–or perhaps even millions–of people online, you’ll attract attention and people will want to hear more from you.
is the key for developing new ideas!
You won’t become a successful public speaker by rehashing old ideas in the same way as everyone else. You need to develop fresh, relevant content that people want to hear. Invest a lot of time into thinking about your message and how you can deliver it in a way that will inspire, motivate, and captivate an audience. Identify Your Ideal Audience
It can be tempting to think your message will resonate with everyone. But, the truth is, a message that’s too generic won’t leave a big impact on anyone. So rather than decide you’re going to speak about sales or that you’re going to motivate all business leaders, narrow down your niche. Identify the types of groups who you really want to reach so you can create content that will resonate with them. Understand the people you will target as audience members before you get too far into the development of your career. Different groups of people need to be communicated with in different ways.
4. A story
which is relavant to your statement adds colour to the picture!
Humans relate to stories. We connect to stories. Funny stories. Sad stories. Inspirational stories. We love stories. So tell them. Lots of them. Stories will keep your audience engaged and are also easier for you to memorize. Gain Speaking Skills Having good content is only part of the battle. The way you deliver your message is more important than the words you use. Even if you think you’re a rock star speaker already, there’s a good chance you have some bad habits (from swaying back and forth while you talk to using filler words like “um” more than you know). Join a public speaking group, take a college communications class, or hire a speaking coach to help you develop better communication habits. A few little tweaks to your delivery can make or break your career as a speaker. Also, record yourself giving a speech and watch it back. It can be painful to watch yourself but it’s important to learn more about your hand gestures, body language, and speaking habits so you can improve.
is the spice of life, but it also plays the role of salt while Speaking in Public!
You don’t have to be a comedian to
become a motivational speaker, but humor makes a massive difference. Humor
works to endear you to an audience, but it’s also a big differentiating factor
in the speaking market. Many of the top speakers in the industry use humor in
6. Let the
audience also participate; Allow the audience a chance to laugh!
When you tell a joke or deliver a
punch line, give the audience time to laugh. Sometimes speakers like to rush to
the next point, but don’t do that. You need to give the audience a chance to
respond to what you just said (in this case to laugh), but also if you rush on
to the next though while the room is still laughing, nobody will hear what
the demand for your niche, if it is not in demand!
Once you feel like you have a talk ready to go, start marketing yourself. Build a website that shows you’re a speaker. Add “speaker” to your social media profiles. Tell everyone you know that you’re looking for speaking engagements. Word of mouth is often a key factor in getting speaking engagements. Keep releasing content too. Blog about your ideas, guest post on popular sites, make videos, or write a book. Release your ideas into the world so you can gain credibility as an expert. Event planners will want to see you in action as they make decisions about who to hire to speak, so at some point, you’ll want to create a demo reel that showcases you as a speaker. It may contain footage of you from several speeches, clips of you in the media, or audience reviews of your performance.
many doors and finally you will be welcomed!
Early on in your speaking career, you may need to apply for speaking gigs. Be on the lookout for conferences, conventions, and gigs. Find other speakers with a similar message and see where they’re speaking. You might reach out to event organizers and ask them to keep you in mind for future events. The more your speaking career grows, the less you’ll need to apply for speaking opportunities. Eventually, people will seek you out. And if you’re doing well, speaker bureaus will want to represent you and they’ll proactively market you as a speaker for events. They’ll take a percentage of your fee, but they can help you obtain higher paying gigs.
9. The word
FREE has a great pull. Offer to speak for Free!
Once you have your content ready to go and you’re comfortable speaking to an audience, offer to speak for free. Reach out to local organizations who may benefit from your content. There are many conferences around the country who don’t pay speakers (some of them offer free admission to speakers). Apply to speak for them to help you gain practice speaking to a live audience. Some people do a handful of free speaking engagements before they feel equipped to look for paid gigs while others speak at a few dozen events before they feel comfortable charging. But be prepared to speak for free until you’re in-demand.
‘How to be a better conversationalist?’ is a question that hovers in the mind of all socially aware people of the civilised society.
Besides, an interesting conversation is a very important business etiquette. The skills of effective face to face conversation enable you to build better relations at the workplace and in society. We converse day in and day out. So we must try to think back how often we are very interesting and how often we are not. There are certain rules which we need to keep in mind to develop our good business conversation habits. These are as follows:
1. Be present: When you are conversing with someone for fun or for business negotiation, you should be totally with him or her. A good conversationalist must be an active listener. You need to listen to understand and not to reply back. When you do that you will be more engaging in the conversation. You should not think about anything else; not about any past events nor any similar situations. You should only be listening to the person you are speaking to. While listening, you should be assimilating the information not to reply but to understand. In simple words first understand then only try to be understood.
2. No advice unless you are asked, please: Your conversation should not be just to vent out your opinions or to display that you know everything about the things that you are discussing. It also does not mean that you should not participate in the conversation. You may hold a different opinion and also express the same decently in an inoffensive manner. Always keep in mind than an effective conversationalist need to be flexible, but, you should be. That can happen only if you listen and understand the other person properly and never interrupt anyone when he or she is speaking.
3. Ask open ended questions using what, how, where, when etc. If these are suitable to the person & situation when they answer these questions, they will be able to speak out in detail what they have in mind. They will be able to throw more light on the subject of conversation which will add to your knowledge and pat their ego. Don’t just ask questions for which the answer is ‘yes’ or ‘no’. That will not show that you are a good conversationalists.
4. Go with the flow and make the conversation a fun: You must first listen to the person talking and if at all you have to say something different from the current topic wait until the subject changes. Maintain a good sense of humour. Besides, you need never be waiting for speaking out as soon as the speaker completes the sentence. In such an instance your mind will be only concerned with what you are going to speak. In the process you will not listen and you will not understand what the person just spoke.
5. If you don’t know, say it: You should never behave like “I know everything” even when you know much. One never knows all. Thus, if you are asked something and you don’t know simply say “I am sorry, I don’t know!” There is nothing wrong in that. In fact, I have never met anyone who knows everything. But I must admit that there could be people who show off as it they everything.
6. Don’t equate your experience with theirs: Now, if someone is sharing with you an experience and you also had a similar experience earlier, hold that back. Let the speaker enjoy telling/sharing his/her experience and then briefly only if necessary just in agreement you can say that yes this is true because you also experienced the same. You should never rob him/her from sharing that interesting experience with you. A good conversationalist has a good sence of humour and makes the conversation enjoyable for everyone.
7. Don’t repeat yourself: Repetition in a conversation is extremely unwelcome. People will get bored and they will definitely think that it is not worth talking to you because you keep on repeating yourself. And many people do the same. Therefore try to think, observe and ensure that you never repeat the same thing over and over again.
Thus, one must listen, be more open and while speaking, should
be brief. Verbosity kills the efficacy of the idea. Always use simple language
and short sentences. Short sentences means one can vary the sentences between
four words to twenty words. If you are using a sentence containing 20 words,
you must pause in the middle just like you give commas in a written speech and
not speak in one go. Develop a sense of humour to keep the conversation light.
The word success as defined in the dictionary means “ the accomplishment of an aim or purpose” . True as it is but definition of the word success changes from person to person. Every individual’s definition of success is different. And why Not? We all have different aims, objectives, goals and purpose of life. And accomplishment of those would mean SUCCESS to each one of us. Though there is no common definition of success many successful people have presented their views on success. Let us now understand what success meant to them and how best we can add to our success from their experiences.A writer, statesman and a leader as he was Winston Churchill who has contributed immensely to the Britain’s victory in World War II has quoted that “Success is not final, Failure is not fatal; It is the courage to continue that counts”. Isn’t it true? Many people think that if you fail at something , it is the end of your life. The suicidal stories you hear after the academic results are declared clearly indicate people’s attitude towards failure. The quote mentioned above re instills the value of courage to continue the effort in spite of several failures. In short, perseverance is one of the keys to success. When one wants to achieve something one should turn deaf ears to what people say about your endeavors . Because as the quote goes,” At first they will ask why you are doing it ;But later they will ask How did you do it? Yes, this is especially important for the people who are torch bearers. Torch bearers are people who attempt to tread the less taken path and are the first ones to do so. When you are pursuing something different and novel, skeptic people always try to ask the validity of such pursuit. Well, if you are convinced about your effort and are ready to give in your hundred percent you will be successful at it. And then the same people would ask you the ways in which you tried to achieve such an untapped feat. Life is a mix of good and bad times. We are successful sometimes and sometimes we do fail. The most important thing in life is to “Be thankful for hard times as they have made you.” Hard times are testing times. Failures should be visualized as a lesson. I t is rightly said,” When the going gets tough, the tough gets going”! Every struggle to get successful will make you wiser and stronger. While achieving success it is important that you put your heart , mind and soul into excelling at what you have undertaken. If needed you have to sacrifice a lot in order to achieve something great.
Swami Sivananda has rightly pinpointed the secret of success. He quotes ,” Put your heart , soul and mind into even your smallest acts”.
It is also very evident that there is no
shortcut to success. It is well known that there is “No elevator to success.
You have to take the stairs.” Hard work in proper direction definitely yields
success. ease everybody.
Success is a result of focus, hard work, learning from failure , loyalty and persistence .
Indeed when you strives to excel at certain thing you are bound to be successful. When you balance your hard work with persistence and loyalty the end result will be none other than SUCCESS. Nelson Mandela quotes” Don’t judge me by success but how many times I fell down and got back again”.If you have persevering attitude in life, nothing can stop you from being successful. Perseverancefffffff is a factor which differentiates between success and failure. Success is , thus, relative to each individual. Unfortunately, many people don’t have goals at any time in life. Life is very short and the most important thing in life to be successful is to set some goals. What is a life without goals? People misconstrue goals to be only related to career and finances. Well, negating that opinion you can categorize goals as:
Family goals and
Goals for society
And Spiritual Goals
have to take charge and set goals for yourself. The priority of goals would
differ from person to person. You may feel family and health goals are more
important than the rest of the goals. An ambitious person may prioritize on
career and financial goals. Hobby goals are the goals which are meant for
yourself satisfaction. Society plays an important role in everyone’s life. You
should also set some goals which will benefit the society. It is a way to give
back to the society where you belong.
Maslow’s pyramid of self motivation has the self actualization need at the top of it! Spiritual goals help achieve that need of a person. While setting up goals make sure that your goals are SMART. SMART Goals mean
S- Specific M-Measurable A-Achievable R-Realistic T-Time bound Well, to achieve success be specific about what you want to achieve. The goals should have some yardstick against which you can measure your success. You should always have realistic goals and not unbelievable ones. An example of setting a goal could be “ I want to reduce my weight by 1.5 kgs in a matter of 15 days. Once you do that you can start working over it by chalking out a plan and then executing the same. Always check on what you have achieved against what you wanted to achieve And keep on bridging the gap, if any. When diligently persevered, success becomes a habit!!
In life it is necessary to have some beliefs. That does not mean that you need to follow any dogma or belief forced on you.
Believe in yourself. You can pick your own beliefs with discretion. First, let us understand what is self-belief. What are the qualities that it inherits? Self belief is an invaluable virtue which brings great possibilities in your life. Its indications are that you:
Some of the benefits of believing in yourself are: i) Stop making any excuses for any reason what-so-ever. ii) Do not indulge in any negative thought. iii) Stop thinking that difficulties surround you alone. You do not jump to conclusion and take hasty actions. You express your fears to others without any hesitation, because you keep in mind that everyone has some fears. iv) You stop procrastinating because that is indicative of your lack of confidence. v) Stop pursing perfection. Perfection is never achieved. It only stops you from moving ahead.
You have to motivate yourself for self- belief once you develop self belief and you observe that you conform to all what has been said above, you will find the following eight advantages coming to you smoothly and seamlessly.
1) Self-belief enables you to hold strong conviction. All things do not happen the way you have planned or the way you expect. But strong conviction will help you to move ahead without fear of failure. Conviction in a leader is an incredibly valuable yet increasingly rare trait. It’s in short supply because our brains are wired to overreact to uncertainty with fear. As uncertainty increases, the brain shifts control over to the limbic system, the place where emotions, such as anxiety and panic, are generated.
2) Self belief also helps you develop optimistic attitude. which is necessary today in the wake of fast changing world. Life is becoming extremely competitive. Any opportunity missed once may never come back again. But if you have a negative attitude you will not be able to catch the fleeting possibilities. So it is necessary to rely on your self confidence .Importance of self-confidence should never be undermined.
3) Your self-belief also makes you more reliable to others. Thus you tend to build up better relations with others. This is another benefit of self-confidence at your workplace. Your credibility is not question. Since people can trust you they vie for good relations with you. Needless to say that for any significant project you need help from others. Self-belief necessitates that you’re willing to change course and change opinions. It requires you to listen to others and take their view point into account without feeling attacked.
4) Self-belief also helps you to be focused and self motivated. You no longer take life as it comes. You don’t depend on unknown sources to bring you luck. You carve your own destiny. Self motivation helps you to maintain enthusiasm and interest in life. A motivated person tends to ask more questions and devote more time to discovering the answers. If you are the kind of person who actively pursues your personal interests, you’ll find it easier to naturally acquire the skills and knowledge you need to design a life that’s more in alignment with your goals and dreams.
5) Your risk taking ability improves if you believe yourself. It is said that there are no gains if there are no risks. Your conviction helps you to take calculated risks in meeting the challenges of life. The tendency to avoid and escape facing challenging situation reduces substantially. You start realizing that difficulties form a necessary part of life. Your self confidence is very important for your success in every field.
6) Further, self-belief enables you to give and receive constructive criticism with an open mind. In the current scenario exchange of ideas and views are extremely important. The autocratic leader is not acceptable any more. So if you want to progress you have to collaborate with others from your own organization or outside outfits. Although both forms are challenging your ideas, character or ability, when someone is giving destructive criticism it can hurt your pride and have negative effects on your self-esteem and confidence.
7) Self-belief helps you to be more assertive. You start caring for yourself more than pleasing others. Someone said that he doesn’t know any formula of how to succeed. The sure short formula for success has never been discovered. But there is a firm unbeatable formula for failure and that is trying to please everyone. Your self-belief will not allow you to embark on the journey of securing approvals where these are not mandatory.
8) last but not the least, you start working on improving yourself respect. You realize that if you do not respect yourself, others will follow suit. When you’re in need to raise self esteem, you become more effective and you become more productive. Now, you start managing your time very effectively as any improper or inadequate use of your time will hurt your self-esteem. People with good self-esteem generally feel positive about themselves, and about life and good self-esteem contributes towards your well- being and happiness.
One needs to be a learner throughout his or her life. I suggest the following to be a good learner:
1. Always be curious to know things.
Always be curious to know things, to understand as well as assimilate. This is helpful in your wanting to know more. Curiosity, or the strong desire to learn or know something, originates from the Latin word ‘curious’ – eager to know, inquisitive. As children, we are born with an almost insatiable curiosity which, according to famous psychologist Jean Piaget, is critical for our cognitive development – for as children almost everything we encounter is a new experience. It is children’s need to make sense of the world that results in their incessant questioning – “why is the sky blue?”, “what makes it rain?” – And it’s their lack of self-consciousness that enables them to admit to their lack of knowledge or understanding.
2. Be focused.
In order that you enjoy the process of learning, be focused. If you focus you get the best out of your efforts of learning. Focus can help you accomplish a variety of professional and personal tasks, from studying for a test to finishing your work an hour early. There are various practical steps you can take to help yourself focus better and to stop checking your Facebook or phone every fifteen minutes. To stay focused on the task ahead of you, resist the impulse to give in to distractions, make a to-do list (which has built-in breaks) and resist the temptation to multi-task.
3. Never be afraid of failure. Never be afraid of criticism. It is only this fear that does not allow you to use your mind and soul into what you do. As a learner you have to be totally dedicated to what you want to learn and therefore be fearless. Fear is something we all experience, especially when setting out on any new undertaking. Failure is one of the most common and most damaging fears that many people struggle with. However, failure is often the first step toward success: highly successful people such as Harry Potter author J.K. Rowling and billionaire entrepreneur Richard Branson are very vocal about how often they have failed and how that has shaped their success.
4. Learning is a serious matter. Learning is not fun. It’s a serious matter. Give the attention and the required time that the learning deserves. Be patient and try to look for the final details of any process or anything about the subject that you are learning. One of the best things about life is that we never have to stop learning. There are always new skills to learn and techniques for us to adopt. The best entrepreneurs in the world don’t act like they know everything. They all understand the fact that they have to continuously learn to be successful.
5. Whatever you learn you
should make it your own.
Whatever you learn you should make it your own. You should not learn only with a short time goal like to pass the exam, the interview et cetera. You should learn with a view to imbibe you’re learning into your personality. What you learn, you must use. When you use what you have learnt. You reinforce your learning. It you have a chance you teach someone what you have learnt .In the process this knowledge becomes your own and you can use it when needed.
6. Question everything for thorough learning. A good learner questions everything. Simple because these are written words or somebody has said it; don’t just accept. Questions that come to your mind need to be answered. Consult your mentor, teacher or your colleague. Questioning is a revered teaching technique from the days of Socrates, but there are ways, some traditional and some a bit more radical, to increase its impact and better prepare students to move beyond school in a way that provides deeper meaning and encourages greater contribution. Asking a variety of questions and question types is key to student achievement, along with increasing the amount of time allotted for students to think about the questions, but it is also vital that we move away from teachers asking questions as a solution to student learning.
7. Share whatever you have learnt.
should share whatever you have learnt. If anybody has some different opinion
just don’t override with your assumptions. Listen to him or her and check out
if they know better. Sharing knowledge, while it is a noble cause, helps you to
identify if you have left any missing links. Besides, you may learn more from
the person you share with. However, you need to share with the right people or group.
For example, if you share any learning about HR on LinkedIn, your connections
will very happy.
8. Listen to experts on
Listen to experts on the subject. Attend a lecture if it is possible or simple go to the YouTube where videos are available on all possible thinkable subjects. Today, we are fortunate. We have Google. We have Quora and a number of other platforms that provide great information on any subject. Above all, we have YouTube. YouTube in the second biggest search en give on the net. It you don’t like to read, you just listen. There are many classroom lectures ever.
9. Don’t multitask, for
Always follow the dictum of one thing at a time. Don’t ever do multitasking. That’s not the way a good learner should learn. Always follow the dictum of one thing at a time. Don’t ever do multitasking. That is not a way, a good learner should learn. You may have heard that multitask is bad for you, but new studies show that it kills your performance and may even damage your brain. Every time you multitask you aren’t just harming your performance in the moment; you may very well be damaging an area of your brain that’s critical to your future success at work.
10. Don’t expect too much
for your efforts.
Don’t expect too much of your efforts. Real learning requires persistent efforts and sometimes you need to persevere. Be prepared for that. Why do we expect great things and end up crying over it, people tend to exert too much effort in some things that’s impossible and expect it to turn out in their favor. We must learn that a person can’t have all the things in the world.
11. Develop emotional
Develop your emotional intelligence under guidance of a teacher or a mentor. Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the ability to tap into your emotions and use them to make your life better. Being in touch with your feelings allows you to manage stress levels and communicate effectively with other people, two skills that enhance your life both personally and professionally. Unlike IQ, which remains constant throughout your life, EQ can be developed and honed over time. Do all that you can to strengthen your emotional intelligence. It in an investment that will help you throughout your life. Daniel Goleman has made a yeoman’s service to the development of the society with his work on emotional intelligence.
follow above there is nothing that you can’t learn and you will really enjoy learning
and be proud of it.
What are the effective time management techniques?
The major difference between successful people and mediocre
ones is how they manage time in the daily life. What are the effective time
management techniques? It’s a question that baffles many people .Time is the
best resource of human beings, so the critical question is: how do you manage
your time wisely? Daily, we have to perform many tasks. Some of these are
routine, but others are very important. So, one needs to know how to prioritize
one’s time. There are some, who question the very idea of time management and ask,
“Should time be managed”?
While thoughts may vary but one thing on which we all agree
is that we must get the very best out of our time .There are a number of popular
strategies which management gurus have propounded on this very critical subject.
One may evolve his or her system of time management by understanding the
various elements of time management.
We run a very effective time management programme with proven
techniques of prioritizing your daily tasks and maximizing the utility at time.
The details are as follows:
Analyzing the use of time
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time taken on routine task, review of action and think in time, estimating
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development 60 %
We offer an
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How you will benefit?
• Develop your personal effectiveness to get more done in the same amount of time. • Develop your personal initiative and beat procrastination. • Develop a positive mental attitude and use ambition as the motivator rather than fear. • Understanding right perspective to reorganize your goals through time management • Manage priorities without losing out on the important ongoing projects. • Set up your group goals and priorities. • Discover the time wasters and to eradicate and minimizing. • Learning to improve your focus and concentration for increased efficiency.
• How to
recognize key components of effective goal setting.
• How to create clearly defined goals for your position.
• How to distribute time on urgent and important task without compromising on
important ongoing project
• Learn the difference between being “busy” and “productive”
• How to plan ahead
• How to handle interruptions
• How to maximize your personal effectiveness
• How to say “no” to time wasters
• How to delegate in the right way for the right reasons
• How to recognize key components of effective goal setting.
• How to create clearly defined goals for your position.
• How to distribute time on urgent and important task without compromising on
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Everyone loves to enjoy
beauty. The beauty of nature is captivating. but, what is beauty when it comes
to human beings? Beauty is not something that comes from physical appearance.
Physical attractiveness are deception; what matters really is the nature of a
person. It is true that beautiful or handsome people are more
appealing. But we can have a reliable relationship and long lasting trust only
on the personalities of people. Physical appearance of a person might fade as
years pass on; but their characters do not. So, we should nit judge anyone or
anything by the appearance. It is a great wisdom to realize that “Beauty Is In the
Eye of The Beholder”
If we all are familiar about the proverb “All
that Glitters is Not Gold”, then we would be aware that we cannot believe
someone by their appearance. When we are in the light of wisdom outer beauty of
a person will not drive us. What makes a person attractive is
the inner beauty.
People with inner beauty are those that love
to make peace with everyone, take care of fellow beings and try to follow the
path of justice.
How many of us remember the significance of physical beauty when we talk about King Maker Kamarajar? (Late Chief Minister Tamil Nadu).
Do we think physical appearance is important even after we hold Sports personalities like Sachin Tendulkar, Mary Kom, Maria Sharapova and many others as our role models? We do not see the appearance of these people to keep them high as our inspiration. Their talents and achievements are incomparable and that is what has made them world famous. If we think they have become famous by their beauty then it is our foolishness
The legends who have lived and made us realize the importances of inner beauty are: Nelson Mandela, Mahatma Gandhi and Mother Teresa. Nelson Mandela is a great man known for his sacrifice Mandela was willing to sacrifice in order bring equality and get equal rights for the Blacks in South Africa. He is definitely a legend with inner beauty. Mahatma Gandhi, who fought till death for Free India is a man of inner beauty. If we learn the sacrifice Mother Teresa made in her life to serve the poor, we will agree that Beauty lies inside not outside.
Only when we know what real beauty is, we will understand what we see in the outside is just a projection. What matters is the character inside. Like how we see a jack-fruit as a hard and rough fruits outside, but a sweet and yummy piece of delight inside, it is true that “Beauty Lies in the Eye of The Beholder”.
Contributed by Pravin More, a student of our Public